So how do you find out if you're moving forward through force or with purpose? Ask yourself these questions.
What are your instincts saying? Sometimes we know the answer long before we're willing to admit. If you are hesitating, if you are thinking twice about a specific scenario, chances are you may not be ready to pursue it. That doesn't mean you never will be. It might happen at a later time, in different circumstances, having gained strength through experience.
What is your purpose? Are you focusing on self improvement? Are you working to improve the lives of others? Decide why you are doing what you are. Is the work, time, and commitment it takes to achieve those things worth it? I try to focus on goals that achieve both of these things. Because if you are able to improve the lives of others, then by default you will have improved yourself as well.